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(Dis-)orientation

A lot has been said about rights and freedoms. About the freedom of speech, freedom of movement, freedom to exercise economic activity, freedom to exercise “love”, freedom to do or not do things.

We are in a free country! – the saying goes.

Or the rights: the right to go left, right and centre, so to speak. And one must really not even touch upon the subject of the rights of those one the other end of the spectrum (thinking of e.g. rights of heterosexual mothers to have a decent maternity leave as opposed to the various rights of people who want to have other sexual orientation), because one would be thrown stones at.

But have you ever thought of the fact that if everybody relinquishes their obligations, and starts clinging on to their rights for freedom, then anarchy, depression and demise is inevitable?

The crazy world we live in

Have you perhaps seen this already in the world around you?

No, of course I am not saying that we should return to slavery or violence-ridden dictatorships or what not. All I am saying is that we should focus on what truly matters. And it feels like today too many details take centre stage and too many fundamental values are swept off the table. In our fight for freedoms, we have forgotten about our duties and responsibilities as citizens, as sons and daughters, as parents and neighbours. Too much fluff and noise has stuffed our heads, and many of us have lost our paths.

Consider the overblown importance given to sex these days:

  • Streets are plastered with advertisement featuring (almost) naked women, and recently more and more topless men
  • From mascara to furniture, a woman on the advertisement appears almost naked, and in all kinds of kinky poses, because “otherwise consumers won’t buy”
  • Songs on the radio are all about suggestive moves between a man and a woman (or else about failed relations) entering people’s minds about how a life must be lived
  • Fashion seems to be going in the direction of how to undress people, rather than how to dress them elegantly
  • Most popular books and movies are about/involve sex or sex with violence. In some schools, sexual education entered curriculum as if it were another biology class…
  • A teenager who never had a sexual relation is basically an outcast (God bless them!)
  • Teenage girls are encouraged to use contraceptives as soon as they become fertile to “avoid pimples”. WHAT.

Importance of family. Or lack thereof?

And now consider modern-day attitudes to families. It goes not only for many youngsters, who could already have been thinking of having a family, but also for elder generations, who would soon see their ability to create a family wither.

  • From afar: everybody has the right to do whatever they want – we live in a free world.
  • From not that far: I have the right to pick and choose my *potential* soulmate, live with him or her for as long as I want on “girlfriend-boyfriend” terms, and skip to the next one whenever I feel like it. I can go on like this forever, because I live in a free world, and I do what I want.
  • A bit closer: I don’t want to get married, because the wedding costs too much, and we don’t have that kind of money. Furthermore, marrying means I cannot continue swapping playmates as often as I would like to. We use contraception, so there’s really no risk for my health.
  • Closer still: even if I get married (or at least legally co-habitate), we don’t want to have kids, because they are a heavy burden on us, and we won’t be able to enjoy life as we would like to.
  • Deeper still: I am unhappy because I am never sure whether the person I seem to be in love with would stick with me for long enough, so I must always be on the lookout for the next candidate. That means that I must always be skinny, well-kept, dress and behave sexy… but I am tired of this roller-coaster, although I don’t know how to get out of it. I am disoriented.
  • Real deep: I am in a long-term relationship and we are trying to have kids. However, after years of contraception, we are now unable to conceive… We are making lots of effort and started using the most recent advances in medicine to help us, but that costs a fortune, and we don’t see an end in sight. Plus, soon I am not going to be fertile anymore, so I don’t have much time left, and this realisation adds more stress.
  • Deep enough: I am nearing retirement, and suddenly had a realisation that I cannot go on living like this. But I am all alone, and I don’t have anyone or anything to leave behind…

Does any of this sound vaguely familiar?..

What next?

The bad news is that you cannot blame anyone for where you are now. The good news is that the matter is in your own hands! And the truth is –

You are the master of your destiny.

You decide today what your tomorrow will be like.

So be picky!

Yes, be picky! For whatever seeds you plant today will be your future crop. You know: what goes around, comes around.

Is it the most important thing in life to boast about your sexuality / homosexuality / non-sexuality, if in the end sex should never take more than a couple of percentages of your entire life?

If not, then what would life need to be about, then? Here’s one thing to know:

Life without a purpose is a wasted life, a wasted opportunity.

So, what is your life’s purpose, you ask? This is something only you know, my friend. The good news it that there are ways for you to find out! What do you like doing? What are you passionate about? How can you serve others with the gifts that the Universe has granted you with? What do you dream of doing, that would make you feel good at the end of your life? That would be your purpose.

Your purpose is like your Orient. It is the direction in life you should take and wake up every morning for. And you must devote your entire life to attaining that goal, to serving other people with your abilities and through reaching your goal, in order to not waste your life, in order to find fulfillment and happiness in your heart. A good principle to follow here is “Learn-Do-Share”. Its a great principle which will keep you busy until the end of your days 😉

And you know what? It is not as difficult as you might think! Because your life’s purpose is within you, its something natural to you, and its something you already LOVE doing. We are souls, and a soul has a characteristic of never being idle, it longs for growth, for evolution, for development. So, finding what you really love doing means developing yourself, and thus helping your soul grow.

Believe me: if you follow your heart and take the direction that your life’s purpose suggests, there is not even a shadow of a doubt that you will achieve all the riches in the world, including wealth, happiness, sense of achievement, and a ton of supporters. What’s more, there will certainly be people on the way who would want to join forces with you and walk in the same direction. And that is priceless.

Walking the path of your true purpose will help develop all the precious qualities, such as sincerity, honesty, care for those around you, responsibility, kindness, fairness, and more. These qualities are like the facets of a diamond, which will attract the right people in your life, who’d want to be your friends, who’d want to be your companions for life. All you need to do is to really want to succeed at what you like doing and share it with the world around you.

Ultimately, simply by doing what you love, you attract all you need in life. Is it not amazing? You just need to find your path, and stick to it.

Is that not worth the while?

Let me know what you think!

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